[Wed 11 Oct, 23:22]

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No, not all women have left the discussion. I'm still here.

I don't know which part of the world you live in, but unfortunately rape/sexual assault/violence is a common problem anywhere. There's no use trying to deny that.

I don't know any woman who has never been scared of becoming a victim of physical violence.

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Smoker

[Thu 12 Oct, 00:07]

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32. Re: self-defence

Hi all,

Still real curious about what is being taught in women's self defence classes on how to initially react to an aggressive posture from an attacker the victum knows indoors? If any women who has taken a self defence course can answer my question please do.

If needed the following is just a little explanation to explain what I mean by the above question:

It is more probable that a women will be attacked by someone she knows indoors rather than have to deal with a street attack by an unknowed asailant. The problem with the attack by someone the victim knows is how to initially react to the attack. Do you follow the first impulse and try to talk the attacker out of it or do play the weakling to get him to drop his guard and then pull the surprise attack with everything you got?

Trying to talk the attacker out of the attack or using verbal threats that you will get physical if you have to etc might stop a lot of potential attacks before they get going but if the attacker is determined the victim has just telegraphed her intention of defending herself with violence if necessary, thus the element of surprise is gone from her defence.

Which of these choices is being taught now in women's self defence classes?

Thanks for any info, smoker

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Anonymous

[Thu 12 Oct, 01:35]

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33. smoker

Hi, I'm poster No. 20.

I've been tought in my first self defence course to try to deescalate the situation verbally (what every smart person would do).

If that doesn't work and you actually do get attacked then punch as hard as you can so the 'surprise factor' is on your side.

Still, this varies from situation to situation I guess. If your potential attacker gives you the impression that he will get intimidated by the woman's threat of using violence, this would be the thing to do. Remember: most rapists look for a victim, not for a fight.

If he seems to be such an agressive person that he's determined to rob/beat/rape you no matter what it takes then that's a different story. I wouldn't mention my martial arts experience and just use it so I can surprise him.

Does this answer your question, smoker?

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Smoker

[Thu 12 Oct, 02:23]

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34. Re: self-defence

Yes that answers my question, thanks you very much poster #33.

Cheers smoker

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Anonymous

[Fri 13 Oct, 11:18]

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35. Re: self-defence

Hello, I'm the original poster. WOW, a lot of info here. From everything I read hear, I guess you kind of walk that fine line. Be confident, but know your limits. Train as realistic as possible - it's not going to be like a boxing match, where everyone is paired of equally (and dressed the same), and both are "ready". Someone I talked to, also said this - that he (the attacker) might have glasses and you might not, he may have just a t-shirt and you might have on a coat - use whatever advantages you have, and take advantage of his shortcomings (maybe swipe the glasses off of him OR make him wear it permanantly by smashing it in his face). I guess I should learn to control my fear - I'm sure that plays a big part. Thanx for all the input. I start that class next week.

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Smoker

[Fri 13 Oct, 16:10]

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36. Re: self-defence

Hi Original Poster, Good luck in the defence class. if you want to it might be interesting to print out this thread and show it to who ever your instructor is. It would be interesting what a professionals opinion is of the advice on this thread. I actually think most of it is pretty good but that said I sure hope you never have to use any of it.

Cheers, smoker

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Anonymous

[Fri 13 Oct, 20:51]

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37. Re: self-defence

#31 (replay to #30) You are right. What I pointed to are posts like #23: "He was there to fight, the old guy was there to kill", or Ultimate Fighting ..., this is a level of violence that is NOT common (as least not in most parts of the world). Street- and bar-fights are carried out within a certain group of men, did you ever see a woman involved ? The standard situation for women self-defence is that a women is assaulted by a "normal" man who has no special martial arts skills. For this situation, self defence courses should be useful

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